In life, when people hurt us, or at least when we think they do, we tend to react as if we are victims. Our guilt and our hatred for ourselves translate into deeply-repressed emotions. Through his book, Radical Forgiveness: A Revolutionary Five-Stage Process to Heal Relationships, Let Go of Anger and Blame, Find Peace in Any Situation, Colin C. Tipping, who lives in Atlanta, USA, since 1984, tells us that via a “full pardon”, we can succeed in driving away our suffering and discomfort, thus avoiding diseases that can attack us. Mr. Tipping assures us that Radical Forgiveness is the key to our own happiness.
In any dramatic situation that happens in life, we distort what is really happening and make our own interpretation of it, which in all perspective, is far from the truth. “95% of history is stories,” says Tipping. As a consequence of what is believed to have happened, we feel guilty and make ourselves victims.
By using one or more means of complete forgiveness, you learn to forgive and to free yourself of any negative influences. While we might believe that the other person has hurt us, they have instead actually helped you be less vulnerable and stronger emotionally.
Here are questions and answers about this interesting subject:
Why Give Importance to Radical Forgiveness?
Because traditional forgiveness does not always work. I would even say it keeps people in a conscious state of victim mentality. Radical Forgiveness, in turn, frees people of being conscious victims. In fact, the Radical Forgiveness is something we all need if we are to evolve as human beings, at least more than we have so far. It would be a way to end wars and separations. Radical Forgiveness is something that is done primarily for yourself. You do not forgive yourself for a pardon. Moreover, the person you forgive does not feel your energy, only you do.
Is everyone receptive to this kind of forgiveness?
Unfortunately you cannot convince those who are not ready to hear this theory or method of forgiveness.
Are there any exercises to do to improve our ability to forgive?
Radical Forgiveness is a practice that provides tools that people can use to activate their spiritual intelligence, which is a part of them and that makes them work.
What is the difference between forgiveness and a traditional full pardon?
The traditional pardon implies that something bad or unhealthy has happened. Through a full pardon request, we become open to the idea that something has happened for a reason and that, therefore, from a spiritual perspective, nothing bad has happened.
When a full pardon is granted, is it final?
Not necessarily. There will always be the memory and sometimes even some residual regret. By contrast, in using the tools to not suffer anymore, we can at least bring regret to its final stages.
Is there a relationship between emotions and forgiveness?
Absolutely. It is very important to feel and acknowledge the emotional pain associated with an event. Instead of remaining sensitive to pain, the process of forgiveness moves us all away from it.
Is a full pardon is directly connected to spirituality?
It is in no case is related to religion; it is spirituality based in philosophy. However, you must show some belief in a higher level of intelligence beyond the self.
Can it be applied in a situation of couples, for example?
Yes, naturally. It illuminates all relations between individuals, and it helps couples to grow and heal. Partners become mirrors for one another and reflect their projections on one another.
Does forgiveness reduce our suffering totally?
Pain is what we feel directly from an event. Suffering strengthens our thoughts about it. Radical Forgiveness steals pain out of all suffering, because one recognizes that there was a certain perfection in what happened in reality and nothing bad has happened.
According to Colin C. Tipping, Radical Forgiveness can eliminate the state of victimization in which the individual finds himself, and thus drives away the past to focus on the present. Radical Forgiveness is the key to the kind of life and world we want, say specialists. It is no longer an option, it is our destiny.
Examples of Sentences to Use to Liberate Yourself:
- “I have freed my conscience of any feeling from injury, abandonment, betrayal, loneliness, sadness and anger.”
- “I completely forgive and accept myself as a benevolent, generous and creative being.”
- “I release the need to hold on to emotions and ideas of limitations related to the past and I am free of all barriers to love and abundance.”
- “I create my life and I can be myself again, to love myself unconditionally and support myself as I am in all my power and my glory.”
- “I acknowledge that I am a spiritual being living a human experience, and I love and support myself in every aspect of my humanity.”
- “I am honored to have the courage to pass these tests and for being able to move beyond a victim. I am free!”
Sentences from the book by Colin C. Tipping.