Every child is the best for his/her parents, who would particularly like them to grow up happy and fulfilled – a goal not always easy to achieve despite all good intentions. So can you give a taste of happiness to your children and give them the joy of living? Yes, say experts. Here are some tips to try to get there!
One of the finest, if not the finest, characteristics of a child is his immense “potential for happiness”. In fact, his discovery of the world will lead him to marvel at everything and anything: an insect on a leaf, a piece of chocolate, clothing, colorful objects or even an unexpected noise. This is a true fascination for parents!
Yet this natural ability of children to marvel must not let us forget another fact that they are often decisive in what happens next: the role of parents is important in the development and maintenance of natural happiness. The parent fast becomes the role model for the child. Studies show that a child who lives in a positive and stimulating atmosphere is much more likely to develop a capacity for happiness. On the contrary, if the role model is someone who complains all the time, how will the child believe that life can be beautiful and enjoyable?
The problem is that some adults seem doomed to misfortune, while others are full of optimism and joie de vivre. But according to experts, no one can really tell when a child will encounter a misfortune or challenge in his life. Thus, it helps to adopt good habits and values.
Learn to have fun
One of the first reflexes to adopt towards the child is to present life in its best light, without constantly exposing him to shimmering fairy tales. Tell him, for example, what you like, what are you passionate about. This could be reading, dancing, your work or whether you like his dad, his mom and his grandmother. The important thing is to excite interest in children. A child who is taught to have a zest for life will want to know more, want to start new things, try new things. The curiosity of children is almost insatiable and it is up to parents to satisfy that appetite.
Without spending a fortune every time, think of how a simple event or a special occasion will be remembered by the child. For example, when Grandma comes to visit, get out some candles, a nice tablecloth and make the visit special. Similarly for Halloween, dress up along with your child, and share the collected candy! From time to time, put on some music and dance with him. Teach him that there is something besides television, by organizing sessions of painting where he may develop his creative expression. Let your imagination run and you will see how the opportunities to celebrate with family are easier than you think.
Of course, for educating the child, it is sometimes necessary to scold him or even put in a punishment for wrongdoing. Conversely, don’t forget to congratulate him when the opportunity presents itself. If your child has just made a beautiful painting full of creativity, appreciate his talent instead of cribbing out his hands and hair dripping with paint. After all, it’s only going to take up 5 minutes in the bathroom to clean up the mess. Similarly, when he returns from the park breathless from the play and clothes covered in dirt, encourage him to play every day. It will help him sleep better and longer!
Telling it like it is
The most important habit to help our child to take the path of happiness is to say things as they are. Life should not be seen through candy pink glasses. Such an approach may even be dangerous because it would suggest to the child or that there will never be failures or disappointments in life. This would make them poorly prepared for the future. The important thing is to be realistic and not unnecessarily overprotect the child. But when necessary, one must express his sorrow with the child, without dramatizing or entering into all the details of a situation.
Although the loss of a loved one, illness of a relative or a blow situation are difficult to live and hide, the child may feel their impact more if he does not know what is happening. In such circumstances, the child may become a victim of anxiety. Presenting life at its best does not mean hiding from the child that there are sometimes more difficult moments, and grayer days. He gradually learns that not everything is always perfect. That will serve him when he is himself facing the inevitable obstacles of life at one time or another.
Some tips to help your child’s happiness
- Introduce him early to your life values of happiness – what makes you happy and how you maintain your happiness.
- If discipline is important, praising your child when necessary is also important. Positive reinforcement is essential.
- Turn small moments into a celebration or special event. Being a parent requires you to be involved in the life of the child, and foster an atmosphere where pleasure and happiness go together.
- Focus on happiness is important, but do not hide things from your child when times are not so favorable. Overprotection does not serve well in the long run.