Your habits determine who you are. Ultimately, these are the same habits that shape your life. But it’s not about changing your habits in an artificial manner, just on the outside. It is no coincidence that I’ve talked about self-responsibility in another article. The change must come from within.
One must go through a quest for authenticity, for introspection and understanding of the person one really is. You better yourself not to please others, or to become popular, or to relieve your insecurity.
Through self-realization you can become “more” of yourself and not correspond to any standard out there. In other words, change must come from within and move outwards, and not vice versa. According to the choices you make in your life, you may experience one or more other of the suffering below.
The first is the regret that you will experience if you do not choose to live your life fully. The second is that suffering is related to the discipline. Discipline requires effort, but it is instructive and gives results. Measure which of these two types of pain you would prefer to endure.
We’ll look at some good habits that lead to success. Your responsibility is to pass these good habits, repeating every day. As you marry this new lifestyle, you become aware of your old habits, those that limited your success and made you suffer.
But the choice to adopt constructive habits that I propose must come from the deep conviction that you want to live the life you dream. If you apply them mechanically from the outside, like when you cook from a recipe, they will not give you the desired results.
A Habit that Leads to Success
Simplify things. Human beings have mastered the art of complicating things that are in fact simple. To increase the control you have over your life and your activities, just make things simpler. Focus yourself on what really counts. To simplify things, simply eliminate the activities that produce fewer results, which take more time unnecessarily, or which do not contribute to achieving your goals. Simplification helps you understand what’s happening and focus your energy in the right place. It produces better results and increases the quality of your life.
We always make mistakes, and often without even realizing it. That’s where we fail, because we repeat and we get fewer results. To be more efficient, we must realize our mistakes and stop repeating them.
To help you simplify things further, you can analyze your actions. Ask yourself the following questions. The first allows you to learn from the past: “Are there actions and activities that I made utterly useless and are things I should not repeat?” The other issues this: “Am I disorganized?” “Are there activities that I do or agree to do that I should not in the future?” “Are there any activities or responsibilities that are unnecessary and impede the results I want to get?”
When you answer these questions, the following steps are to identify what you need to stop doing, and how to free you from these activities and responsibilities as soon as possible. Then you will make sure not to get “trapped” again. Often, we say yes to requests from others only to please them, to avoid offending, or simply because we do not realize that the request actually disorganizes us.
To achieve, you must believe in yourself and your goals enough to be able to say no. Once you know how much you want to improve your life, it becomes easier to respect yourself and politely decline some inappropriate requests. You have the right to say no.
For example, if you explain why you cannot accept a request, and you present your reasons in a way that others easily understand your situation and your denial is something they should understand, especially without personal offense. If others do not understand the situation, you may wonder if they truly do respect you at all. The goal is to first respect yourself. If you say yes just to please others and not to disappoint them, it is possible that you don’t respect yourself enough.