No matter what our age, we need to play and have fun in life. Even behind the most serious beings, hides a fun-loving spirit.
A persistent myth is: if you’re having fun, you cannot be productive. This is not true! When we give ourselves permission to have fun, we are more calm and rested. People who have a playful attitude have fun everywhere. For them, it is important to be creative and have fun, both at work and in everyday life. It is almost a philosophy of life.
You can play right from the first day of your life until your last breath but only if you want to! We live in a society that favors the rat race and where performance mesmerizes the minds. It can be difficult to appreciate that we may want to have company in the evenings, play a game of cards with friends and not leave in the mornings without finishing our Sudoku! There is no conflict between pleasure and production. Games promote well-being, health, creativity, logical sense, strategic thinking, spontaneity, curiosity and relaxation.
There are certain kinds of people who allow themselves lesser leisure time than others. But no one is completely incapable of having fun. Basically, we all have the capacity to do so. However, some have more trouble letting go, because their environment holds them back.
It is noted that older people are more spontaneous and free spirited. Pleasure becomes the driving force behind their actions. If they want to have fun, they do. If they get no pleasure, they refuse an activity. Perhaps the need to prove something to others is less they do not feel judged while having fun.
Adults, meanwhile, are sometimes afraid of being judged by others if they are caught having fun. Thus, many adults allow themselves more freedom to play when children are present. Confidence is an important factor in our relationship with leisure. This is a prerequisite that leads us to be less afraid of being judged by others, be more likely to be spontaneous. Confident people are not afraid to get wet in the rain or play in the dirt.
We need to have fun in our lives, but it is very unfortunate that we need to give ourselves permission to have fun. We must learn to play. For some, it begins in small doses, through small gestures. But the most important thing is to find what gives us pleasure. Our sources of pleasure change our expectations too. We gradually learn to adapt pleasurable activities in our lives.
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When we take life so seriously, we deliberately bypass good moments of fun which are highly productive and essential to our lives. People who are highly playful are better equipped to cope with life situations. Play leads us to explore the unknown, and sometimes takes us into an unreal world. Not knowing what awaits us, we become better equipped to juggle all contingencies that may occur later in real life. In fact, such people do not consider situations as obstacles but as challenges.
People who give themselves permission to play are less afraid of life in general, because they know that they have strategies to overcome obstacles. By playing, we give ourselves permission to be destabilized by the unexpected and learn to better manage the unknown, which we may encounter in our daily lives as well.
With games, we flirt with the idea of letting go. It is a healthy distance from reality. In fact, because there are rules, constraints and limitations, play gives us greater freedom to act in our own lives. Play changes our thought process for the better and soothes the soul so that we are relieved from discomfort and physical strain is reduced. We also free ourselves from obligations and a restrictive life, coming out with a lighter spirit.
In addition, games create a tight social fabric. Moreover, they reestablish bonds by creating opportunities for healing and reconciliation. Participants are freer, more detached from worry or stress of their jobs, more relaxed and therefore more open and responsive. When we laugh or have fun, we can discuss and forget many problems. Play is indeed a very good teacher.
We play to:
- Break the solitude
- Make friends
- Spend time
- Build relationships
- Create complicity with the other players
- Stimulate our creativity
- Develop our logic
- Promote our strategic thinking
- Sharpen our spontaneity
- Feed our curiosity
- Gain energy