A friend is someone who knows us well and loves us anyway.
Our relationships with others help to improve our life experience. Good relations reduce stress and help us to know us better. But what is a relationship? A relationship is a place where we give first, not a place where we take. We decided to share with you four keys that allow you to live extraordinary relationships. Here they are!
First key: Respect
The need to be respected and recognized is fundamental in all our relationships. If you do not understand or respect the needs, interests and values of others, you do not express them respect. This causes disputes and poorer relationships. Without respect, our relations are doomed to remain superficial and unsatisfactory. If you accept others and generally you do not try to change them, they will not feel judged and respect you for sure!
Second key: Trust
What is the relationship without trust? In relationships, trust allows others to know we are here, with them, for good reasons. Trust stems from respect and allows others to feel completely themselves with us. It is also in trust that intimacy can be healthy. This intimacy allows us to deepen our relations, to know others beyond weather conversations. Is this not the definition of a meaningful relationship?
Third key: Sharing
The quality of our relations depends on the quality of what we share with others. But in our consumer world, we are sometimes inclined to monetize our relationships: “I will do this only if you do that to me.” This attitude fosters conflict because each begins to recognize what he does for others if there must always a return of the favor. This attitude brings forth the question of comparison. Instead, the extraordinary relationships are asking us to give without expecting anything in return. This is what gives rise to a virtuous cycle of reciprocity. If I give freely without expectation of return, others will give me freely as well. The calculation is then replaced by the gift of self, which in turn inspires support from others. Sharing based and lasting relationships fosters respect, trust and deep commitment.
Fourth key: Compromise
There are always differences between the interests and the ways to see life. Every relationship requires that we set aside a portion of our priorities to open ourselves to what others think and want. For example, when a conflict arises between two people who have a strong character, none of them does not bend to give “reason” to another. This attitude, based on pride, ensures that relations will deteriorate, because aggression destroys communication and understanding. If we think only about ourselves, no compromise is possible. Thus, to live extraordinary relationships, there must be compromise.