“Your success and happiness lie within yourself. Resolve to keep happy and your joy will form a shield against the difficulties.” – Hellen Keller (1880-1968), author and lecturer, deaf and blind
Depression, a necessary evil?
Depression has a more or less importance in everyone’s life. It looks like a pebble at the bottom of a shoe, which makes our work more painful and sometimes it even takes the ugly face of evil. We then leave our joy and motivation to achieve what we love most. We lose patience and generate conflict with others.
Should we suffer the onslaught of depression and simply wait for it to happen? Is depression a necessary evil? Or rather, can we retire for this painful stone that prevents us from moving forward?
The good news is that we can do something! We are often depressed simply because we do not know how to proceed to ensure our well-being. We can fight depression in different ways because each of us deserves her share of happiness!
These thoughts that make us unhappy…
Maybe you will be surprised to learn that our own thoughts occupy a leading role when we are depressed. Our small daily woes frequently lead us to conclude so rapidly and completely. This is often what makes us unhappy…
For example, if a colleague is looking forward to us and we say that this lack of consideration means she hates us, these findings will generate an intense emotional reaction and a negative impact. We will be depressed to dwell on such painful thoughts.
Heal you from depression in changing the way you see things
We live everyday situations where our specific thoughts get twisted. The solution? Instead of concluding negatively about ourselves, we can try to see if there are other reasons which explain the unpleasant behavior of our colleague. Maybe she just heard bad news. May be she has important reasons to concern about, which makes her lose patience.
As Democritus said, awareness was given to us to transform the tragedy of life in a comedy! When we introduce a rational distance between the situation and our too fast conclusions, we break down the negative thoughts that depress us! Result? Our mood and our thoughts are much less negative, although some situations, they are.
This strategy is called reframing. We use it to revise the way we interpret events. When we change the scope we use to see each situation, we give ourselves the chance to get information that provides a more realistic idea of what is happening. This way to enrich our conclusion helps us to avoid getting too negative thoughts and turn them against ourselves.
To avoid depression, one can favorably modify the meaning we give to unpleasant situations that arise. And we win this psychological tool to use on different situations. The following list summarizes several of them.
Attitudes related to depressing self-destructive thoughts
- We stop expressing our needs, desires, ideas, emotions, etc.
- Be ashamed and unhappy about what we are.
- Generalize a failure to ourselves and to our whole life to conclude we have no value.
- We judge too harshly.
- Often believe that we do not deserve to be for the benefit of others.
- We feel guilty even when we are not responsible for the events.
- Do not take decisions or accept the consequences of them.