Month: March 2011

You Can Become Anything You Want

Where you are today is the result of every choice and every action you did in your life. Oscar Wilde   A long, long time ago, in the Middle Ages, a pilgrim was on a long journey to a place of healing. This pilgrim was very wise and constantly questioned –aspects of his life. One day, he approached a quarry, and saw that several workers were employed there. “Desires,” he said; “why should I not ask them what they do?” He walked over to the workmen who carved the stone from the quarry to make blocks. He asked the first worker, “What are you doing?” The worker looked up and replied immediately, without much excitement, “I’m cutting stone, don’t you see?” Slightly disappointed with this response, the pilgrim left the worker to go to another question. To the second worker, the pilgrim repeated his question, “What are you doing?” With a huge smile and a tone full of enthusiasm, the worker replied, “I work to build a cathedral!” This answer warmed the heart of the pilgrim who found that, despite his difficult and monotonous role, this worker was happy. He had a vision, and was conscious that his work was something greater than him. Thanks to his vision, he made his life more interesting. What can we learn from this story? The meaning we give to our life is what...

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How to Empower Yourself?

I’d like to remind you of the importance of taking full responsibility for your life and the results you get. It is so easy to justify the misuse of our time, disorganization, or the fact that we do not get what we want. But we’re never as well served as by ourselves! Take full responsibility for the results you want. Rely on yourself – it’s up to you to achieve your goals. You are the only factor that you can totally control in any given situation. When you take responsibility for your success, you attribute the positive changes to yourself, your making, and your efforts, and not to others, or to luck. There is a direct relationship between self-realization and increased confidence and self-esteem. A person who agrees with this value and takes the time to know what they truly want has the confidence and motivation to succeed. You find yourself more and more feeling proud of yourself, thereby increasing your sense of security. If you raise your standards and you move out of your bubble, you can get much more out of life. Don’t let those naysayers convince you that you deserve nothing better than what you currently have, or that your dreams are not worth risking the warm safety of those without them. You have one life to live. Wouldn’t it be better to have nothing to...

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What is Emotional Dependency?

We are born dependent on our environment to survive. Their survival depends not only on physical food, but also a healthy emotional eating. Love, warmth, attention, affection and joy are some of the ingredients of the food necessary for the emotional development of emotional autonomy. When the food is insufficient for emotional childhood, a person remains in the stage of emotional dependence that is in fact an emotional dependency. A lot of research has shown that people who are raised in a positive emotional environment have better physical and emotional health than people who grow up in an atmosphere of emotional conflict. As children, we are entirely dependent on our parents to build our identity and our freedom to be. When this identity and freedom is suppressed, ignored or rejected, our adult life becomes very profoundly marked by a lack of self-esteem and an inability to manage emotions and feelings. Andrew suffered so much lack of love during his childhood that he is unable to express his feelings at all. Sarah has so much ‘fear of losing’ in a romantic relationship that she becomes jealous often. This jealousy caused the breakdown of each of her relationships. When Louise falls in love, she becomes the shadow of the other person, and ceases to exist as herself. Most people grow into adults are capable of being independent financially and materially, but...

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How to Help Others Get Out of a Negative Emotional Cycle

When we are involved in a relational situation that arouses the negative emotions of others, our own negative emotions are never far away. We must do something! Understand the Other’s State We must first put ourselves in the emotional perspective of another person, even if their negative emotions are targeted against ourselves. If you lose this perspective, you automatically enter the destructive cycle of negative emotions. What can you make out of the other person? Interpret how the event came to be! At the same time, we must not forget that even if the other person has arguments, they are not necessarily rational or constructive – which is why it is usually unnecessary to reply to them rationally. The keyword, rather, is empathy. This is not necessarily the time to comment on the situation, try to analyze, or to refer to past events. All these interventions might be interpreted as attacks that are personal, or signs of rejection. During this step, we should concentrate on calming the emotions of the other person through openness and understanding. Rational discussion can, and will, come later. Identify the Source of Negative Emotions To be effective, one must then identify the source of the emotions that the other person feels. At the same time, we must consider the possibility that the source of emotions may change rapidly. We must act gently. If the...

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Nurture Your Mind with Ayurveda

In our last edition, we told you about the benefits that Ayurveda can provide the level of health. But if you feel anxious, stressed or depressed, the health system can help you. Ayurveda is a traditional medicine originating in India, which has existed for over 5000 years. This science is known in the West since the ’80s.The Ayurvedic Institute in Albuquerque, United States (New Mexico) has much to do in the recognition of Ayurveda in North America. The objective of this therapeutic system is to achieve self-knowledge and spiritual awakening, and restore perfect health. However, to Ayurveda, health does not have the same meaning as in Western medicine. A person is considered healthy if all goes well in his life physically, emotionally and spiritually, and also in his career. He must also have genuine relationships based on love. The word Ayurveda means science of life or longevity. What is Ayurveda Like? According Ayurveda, every human being consists of five elements: earth, water, fire, air and ether. In Ayurveda, these five elements are grouped in pairs to form three doshas. An excess dosha causes degeneration and disease. Therefore, it needs to be rebalanced for the person to be brought back to health. Each person is born with the three doshas, but we all have a dominant dosha. Land and water form the Kapha dosha, water and fire up the pitta...

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